Female Sex Survey

Does anyone else get offended when they read statistics about what women want in bed or how they view sex?

The Ottawa Sun is running a week-long special series looking into the sex lives of women and if Monday's article was any indication the entire series is going to be biased, vanilla and heavily edited to exclude anything actually worth reading.

The aggregate data in their statistic charts shows that the largest percentage of women interviewed stated "I don't know" or refused to answer the questions asked. Not all women are comfortable discussing their sex lives with a market research agency. In fact, most aren't. I make my living talking about sex and I still don't think I'd feel comfortable discussing the intricacies of my sex life with a stranger.

Nowhere does it state the age demographic targeted. It's really easy to skew data polls by making the informed decision to exclude or focus more strongly on certain age groups.

We're supposed to trust this data as an accurate and innovative new view on the sex lives of hetero females? I don't think so.

Why can't we have proper representation in the media when it comes to sex? Women seem to be portrayed as either promiscuous and liberal (ie. Sex and the City) or prudish and indecisive (ie. The Ottawa Sun's current week-long series on women and sex).

Sure, there are extremes, but what about those of us in the middle? I truly believe that in a more comfortable setting many of the women who said they "with their partner would be better skilled" would admit things more along the lines of "I wish he'd let me peg him" or "My favorite position? facefucking." Enjoying a little deviancy does not make you slut or a heathen. By refusing to even acknowledge any sexually deviant or homosexual activity in their articles on the sex lives of women the Ottawa Sun is perpetuating the shame and negativity that so many women feel about their sexual preferences.

Just because you read it in the newspaper, or magazine, or my blog, DOES NOT MAKE IT CONCRETE.

Everyone is different and everyone deserves to be embraced for who they are, not overlooked or shamed for straying from "the norm".

Sorry to be so editorial, but I get very angry when a journalist decides that it's a good idea for them to write about sex. They almost always say something offensive or misogynistic and they often come across as uninformed. Do your research. I've spend years studying sex, sexuality, health, BDSM lifestyles and the psychology of sexuality and I wouldn't dare try to write an article on the definitive sexual desires of women. I wonder what the writer of this article's credentials are? J-school?

Got beef with the portrayal of women's sexuality in the media? Leave a rant in the comments or send your own editorial to the Ottawa Sun via ottsun.feedback@sunmedia.com .

This Saturday at Babylon: ONE NIGHT STAND

March 7th, 2009: One Night Stand, Rockalily Burlesque's second headlining show will be rocking Babylon Nightclub like only Rockalily can.

This time we've got special musical guests, Ninety Pounds of Ugly and DJ Eric Roberts.
over a dozen local artists and artisans will be exhibiting and selling their works while artists from Pirate City show off their skills with a tattoo machine on some human canvas. To top it all off we've got door prizes from our sponsors and a raffle to benefit the Ottawa SPCA featuring several luxurious prizes!

Don't miss out! Advance Tickets are $12 at both Compact Music locations, all 3 Classixxx locations, End Hits and Pirate City. Cover is $15 at the door.

See you there!

Dave sent me this.

Tragedy for Local Sex Shoppe Owner

Around 3am on February 6th the strip mall next to the Brittania Pub, on Richmond road was set ablaze. The strip mall was gutted by fire. Included in the wreckage was locally owned and operated, Wicked Wanda's Adult Emporium.

Two local residents have been charged with 5 counts of arson in relation to the Richmond Road fire that destroyed 4 other business as well as WW.

Wanda, the proprietor of Wicked Wanda's, was in London, Ontario at the time of the fire performing with the London edition of Sexapalooza. Wicked Wanda's Adult Emporium was a labour of love. Wanda thrived on educating the public on sexuality and offers workshops on various types of BDSM play and body discovery.

An Unofficial statement from a WW employee say "We will regroup and rebuild".

A fund has been started to help Wanda get back on her feet while the insurance dicks take their time figuring out how little they can pay out. If you are interested in donating please email me and I will put you in contact with the person in charge of raising money.

I wish Wanda nothing but the best and hope that she and her employees/friends (sometimes that line blurs) are all back on their feet really soon.

I know what it's like to have your world turned upside-down by a fire. On December 23rd '08 the apartment above mine was destroyed by a fire. The structure of my apartment was destroyed by flood and smoke. Luckily the contents were unharmed. I was displaced for 5 weeks, with no insurance and no proper compensation from the company I rent from. Not to mention the busses were not running! Renovations were finally fully completed last week and we're still unpacking and reorganizing.

My situation sucked more than I can express in words... I can only imagine how all the business owners who lost their stores in the Feb 6th fire feel.

My heart goes out to them.

(photo from Ottawa Citizen)

As if this needs my help...

Sexapalooza is this weekend at Lansdowne Park.

Despite what some people are saying, it's more than just a giant temporary mall of sexy retailers. There will be periodic stage shows throughout the weekend (Rockalily is part of this year's entertainment), a dungeon for you to learn all about BDSM the fun way, workshops and info sessions, a bar and some sexy greeters. Um.. did I mention the bar?

I'll be there the whole weekend, working in some capacity. Sometimes, for me, working includes gin and tonic; don't let a drink in my hand fool you, I am hard at work!

Anyway, this is a good chance to see a show, get spanked and take advantage of some trade show deals on toys and lingerie.

Sexapalooza Official Website