Procon - the first installment of reccomended sex music

Have you ever heard of ProCon? Probably not, but you should have.
They're one of the BEST electronic acts that Toronto is exporting nowadays.
I discovered them 2 summers ago at Montreal's Le Spectrum. They were opening for a big name in teenage goth electro music. I immediately ran to the merch booth and bought their CD 'cause I knew my life would not be complete without it.

How does this pertain to sex?

Count Feedbacks sexy beats with Countess Christsmasher's hot voice are, in my opinion, bona fide panty peelers.


Raw Knee's weekly reccomended fuck tunes: PROCON!

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The Blowjob Manifesto pt 3 - Regret, Stigma, Empowerment And Feminism Through Cock Sucking

There are times, after performing fellatio, that a woman can feel like she's been subordinated or otherwise used and starts to feel shame.  This does not always happen and it doesn't happen to everyone.  When it does happen it could be immediately afterwards or even years afterwards.

The best way to avoid this feeling is to only go as far as you are comfortable with someone, although the regret feeling isn't always avoidable. 

A year and some odd months ago, I dated a man for a brief period of time... less than 2 months

I was into him like white on rice, and he expressed that the feeling was mutual. The first (and only) time I ever gave him head I had him screaming in ecstasy. The man was screaming my name so loud that I'm sure all of downtown Ottawa heard it (bear in mind that my name is not actually Raw Knee). He always told me that I was the best he'd ever had at everything we ever did, but never with as much enthusiasm as he saved for that blowjob. He shot my ego through the roof.

As previously stated, this was a very short relationship, if you could even call it that.  It also ended very abruptly and on bad terms.  I spent months moping over it. During those months, and even now sometimes when I think about it I feel a tinge of regret and my self worth takes a temporary nose dive.   I regret blowing him because he never treated me as well as I treated him.

  I've found a way to counter this feeling, and it has everything to do with my key to avoiding it in the first place.

I sucked his dick because I WANTED TO.

I had the power in that situation.  He didn't make me do it, I wanted to and I did a damn good job.  The poor bastard will probably never be so lucky again. So why should I feel bad about it?

I was exerting my power as a woman.  He's never going to forget me and he might even regret how he treated me in the end.  So really, who should have the regrets?

If you ever get that post-fellatio feeling of regret just remember that you did it because you wanted to, that he's a damn lucky guy to have had you and that you can take away the privilege at any time.

Dressed for Sexcess

When asked "What is Fetish Fashion?" Most people picture a stereotypical gay bear clad in leather, or a pierced and tattooed woman who's been gagged and hog tied. These types of 'fashion', still viewed as taboo, have not been fetishised by nearly as many people as certain types of fetish attire that's seen in every day life. A police officer probably does not think about how many panties he'll wet just by wearing his uniform when he dresses in the morning. Few women realize the fantasies they inspire when adorning their legs with pantyhose and feet with high heels. Any article of clothing (or inanimate object, or role to be played) can be and probably has been turned into the object of someone's sexual desire. Although many regular clothing styles and uniforms are commonly fetishised, they are not usually categorized as such because the reason they are worn is not to arouse sexual thoughts and behaviors. Fetishistic behavior was, up until recently, rarely spoken of and thus has very little recorded past, although there is an undoubtedly long history. Because of this, the origin of fetish fashion is nearly impossible to determine.

Many claim that the restrictive corsets and hobble skirts of the Victorian Era were humanity's first taste of fetish fashion. Both items have drifted in and out of popular style throughout the ages. The corset, a wedding staple and beloved item of BDSM practitioners, has only been adopted as both a kinky bondage item as well as an aesthetically pleasing outer garment, in the past 3 decades. Hobble skirts, named aptly for their strict hemline, cause the wearer to hobble or take tiny steps. They first appeared in the 1880's and have been resurrected as the 1950's pencil skirt and more recently as a popular style of wedding dress. The restrictive nature of the hobble skirt makes it an ideal bondage item.

It is also often speculated that the original fetish fashion statement was that of the post WWII biker subculture, who's leather and denim clothing didn't take long to be adopted by homosexuals. Leather and denim was worn by many gay men to affirm and proclaim their masculinity and toughness in a society where homosexual men were stereotyped as effeminate. By the 1960's leather culture was beginning to become popular in Britain by the hand of popular musicians such as The Who and The Rolling Stones. In the early 1970's the (still very underground at the time) BDSM community began to take on leather culture and fashion. To this day, leather is a major part of both the BDSM and Gay communities. "Mr Leather" competitions are held annually in many cities, including Ottawa, and draw in crowds of all kinds of people, from avid participants to curious voyeurs.

The most common reported fetish is, and has been for centuries, the foot/shoe fetish. Shoes in many different styles are available in an array of sizes for men and women of all foot-sizes to enjoy, relish and worship. Foot fetishism is more common in men than women. Practicing foot fetishists generally enjoy to lick, suck, be trod on by and humiliated with a pair of high heels worn by a woman. Some foot fetishists prefer to wear the shoes while others aren't even interested in shoes but just the feet. Arguably the most extreme of the fetish shoe is the pointe heel. Similar in design to ballet points but with spike heels to support the heel of the foot, alleviating the pressure on the toes ever so slightly. Pointe heels are usually ankle height but are available in the even more restrictive thigh-high.

Most current and typical fetish attire is not worn on a regular basis and is usually only seen in private clubs, bedrooms, fetish/BDSM events and ornate goth/metal/industrial music videos. The most common materials used in modern fetish clothing are leather, latex, pvc, spandex and fishnet. Common themes include everything from puppy or pony play to PVC versions of commonly fetishised uniforms to latex gowns and catsuits. Fetish Fashion accessories can range from cuffs and collars to thigh-high platform boots and gas masks. Canada is known for it's fetish and BDSM fashion thanks to Northbound Leather in Toronto and Polymorphe Latex in Montreal. Because of Ottawa's proximity to both Northbound and Polymorphe, and the number of local custom corsetiers, there is no lack of pret-a-porter (or pret-a-play, if you will) fashions here. Several events and exposes held throughout the year draw in vendors from all across Canada to share their [fetish] wares with the kinky side of ottawa. Fetish items from latex bodysuits and leather harnesses to silk corsets and fishnet stockings are available year round at specialty shops throughout the city. Seek and you shall find.


Photos by Raw Knee

Sexapalooza Ottawa 2008

I got my ass kicked by this weekend's sex convention. Holy...Fucking...Shit.

Okay, I'll admit that I didn't attend friday night. I spent Friday night at an Aids Committee of Ottawa / In Spot / Disorganized event at Babylon. I tried to play it off as being a business thing, because of who it was put on by, but it was honestly just a drunken shitshow full of electronic music. I guess since I can't claim the cover charge as a business expense I don't mind admitting that the main reason I was there was to see Thunderheist. The secondary reason being to network with The Aids Committee of Ottawa and gather some information on In Spot. Unfortunately, by 2:00am I had damn near forgotten all about networking and stumbled out into the street piss drunk, with my friend Kayla, both of us laughing at me for pretending that I was there in the name of research.

I spent all day Saturday and all day Sunday at Sexapalooza. A good chunk of my time was taken up with demonstrating high end vibrators from Europe and Japan. One of the lines I was pushing is called Joy Division, which is ironically enough, German. They're fantastic vibrators. Hygienic silicone with 2 silent internal motors, ultra-flexible and come with a 5 year warranty. The only problem with the vibrator is that I can't imagine using it without a mental image of Ian Curtis hanging. Or worse, WWII concentration camps.

Sexapalooza was surprisingly well organized. Promotions for the show were left late, most of the vendors and demonstrators were expecting a disappointing turnout. To everyone's pleasant surprise, the venue reached capacity at least once each day. The chance Ottawa having of a bigger and better sex con next year is looking good.

Next time I'll bring business cards :)

A reader concern

Hi, Paw Knee

I don't have a question so much as a comment. In your January response to a man who asked about non-exclusive relationships, I found your comment that "(most) women, by nature, want to be in exclusive partnerships…" rather offensive. I have an open mind about people's choices, and women, just as men, have the choice to engage in whatever relationship they want to, which includes nonexclusive relationships. I am wondering what is the natural and innate aversion women have towards an open relationship? I am a woman and I have yet to be handed a guide which tells me I want to be in an exclusive partnerships, or know my nature to be against nonexclusive relationships. I did enjoy the rest of your responses, but I'd appreciate some future care with the unsubstantial conclusions you make.
(Name withheld at my discretion)


(name withheld),
I am truly sorry to offend. I hope you understand that it is not my intent to do so and I very much appreciate your feedback.
I also keep an open mind about people's decisions, however, when asked such a generic question I have little choice but to answer based on the majority - and the fact is that women are psychologically predisposed to long for exculsivity within a partnership. I fully acknowledge that it is not always the case. Polyamory is a legitimate lifestyle choice, although uncommon, as are casual encounters and extensive casual relationships. What I've learned through studies, experience and social observation is that women prefer monogamy for a few key reasons, most notably: social conditioning. We are bred from birth (by various media outlets, religions and for many, our families) to believe that the proper adult relationship is a man and a woman together... generally for the purpose of procreation.
I don't really agree with it, although my opinion is not what matters. The matter is that I gave a generic response to a rather generically formulated question. If you have any more questions, corrections or comments please feel free to email me and I would be happy to consider the issue(s).

Keep reading and be safe!
Raw Knee

The Blowjob Manifesto pt 2 - etiquette

Do's/Don'ts for Men

Do verbalize how much you're enjoying it

Do remind her how good she is at this

Do use positive and constructive vocabulary to guide her where you want her

Don't use her ears or hair as a handle unless you know she likes it. (Try it once, if you get a negative response - don't do it again)

Don't blow your load without warning

Do ask first if you can release in her mouth

Don't make your disappointment too obvious when she says 'no'.

Do say thank you, or express your appreciation in another way.

Do's/Don'ts for Women (or men who life to give head)

Do be aware of your teeth, try not to use them.

Do get messy, spit, slobber, the whole shabang.

Do try to deepthroat. Even if you gag a little, it's okay (so long as you can handle it) When you gag they think they're huge in the pants. It's like a synthetic boost of testosterone for the recipient.

Don't stick your finger up his ass without prior consent

Do be careful with the testes

Don't expect me to give away all my tips for free... sorry gals, this is all you get.

xoxoxoxo

RawKnee

The Blowjob Manifesto pt 1

Never has another act of sexual expression caused me so much grief.

From the man who kept screwing around on his wife because the head was supposedly so good... to the man who refuses to acknowledge my carnal needs because I've withheld blowjob privileges from him....and everyone in between.

The blowjob is power. He wants it, and he can't do it himself. It's one of women's optimum manipulatory tools. If you want him to take you out for a nice evening on the town, chances are you'll get it if you properly allude to the possibility of a nice hummer at the end of the night.

One can also be more blunt, to quote a friend of mine "I'll give you the best head of your life if you just find it for me!" What she was looking for is none of your business, but you can trust me that it was worth having a mouth full of cock for 10 minutes.

I think a major problem is that, for some, the blowjob has become an expected aspect of most any sexual encounter. A blowjob is "just a blowjob" whereas sex is a big deal.

Bear in mind that this is my opinion. I happen to believe that a blowjob is a bigger deal than sex. It takes more work for the one performing the act, it's more intrusive and labour intensive than sex. There's a vulnerability and the acceptance of involved in performing fellatio. Nodoby has ever choked and died from getting ass fucked. comprende, senor? It's just plain intimate. (I also think that kissing is more intimate than sex. It takes little emotion to bend over and take it, but to kiss someone you have to face them... you can taste them.) I can only speak for myself here but there are some hoops you need to jump through before you can put yer dick in my mouth. (Aside from the odd drunken one-night-stand. Drunk Raw Knee is pretty skanky)

Hoop #1: Trust. You have to build up at least a little trust with me

Hoop #2: Make me feel special. Blowjobs feel REALLY good. I know this, and I'm not gonna make you feel good 'till you make me feel good. Whether it's emotional or physical, you have to prove that you're worth it.

Hoop#3: Don't ask for it and don't try to force it. Begging is okay, but only when I've told you to beg.