Does anyone else get offended when they read statistics about what women want in bed or how they view sex?
The Ottawa Sun is running a week-long special series looking into the sex lives of women and if Monday's article was any indication the entire series is going to be biased, vanilla and heavily edited to exclude anything actually worth reading.
The aggregate data in their statistic charts shows that the largest percentage of women interviewed stated "I don't know" or refused to answer the questions asked. Not all women are comfortable discussing their sex lives with a market research agency. In fact, most aren't. I make my living talking about sex and I still don't think I'd feel comfortable discussing the intricacies of my sex life with a stranger.
Nowhere does it state the age demographic targeted. It's really easy to skew data polls by making the informed decision to exclude or focus more strongly on certain age groups.
We're supposed to trust this data as an accurate and innovative new view on the sex lives of hetero females? I don't think so.
Why can't we have proper representation in the media when it comes to sex? Women seem to be portrayed as either promiscuous and liberal (ie. Sex and the City) or prudish and indecisive (ie. The Ottawa Sun's current week-long series on women and sex).
Sure, there are extremes, but what about those of us in the middle? I truly believe that in a more comfortable setting many of the women who said they "with their partner would be better skilled" would admit things more along the lines of "I wish he'd let me peg him" or "My favorite position? facefucking." Enjoying a little deviancy does not make you slut or a heathen. By refusing to even acknowledge any sexually deviant or homosexual activity in their articles on the sex lives of women the Ottawa Sun is perpetuating the shame and negativity that so many women feel about their sexual preferences.
Just because you read it in the newspaper, or magazine, or my blog, DOES NOT MAKE IT CONCRETE.
Everyone is different and everyone deserves to be embraced for who they are, not overlooked or shamed for straying from "the norm".
Sorry to be so editorial, but I get very angry when a journalist decides that it's a good idea for them to write about sex. They almost always say something offensive or misogynistic and they often come across as uninformed. Do your research. I've spend years studying sex, sexuality, health, BDSM lifestyles and the psychology of sexuality and I wouldn't dare try to write an article on the definitive sexual desires of women. I wonder what the writer of this article's credentials are? J-school?
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